Blog 2017-06-05T06:42:51+00:00

From the Cambridge Mind Body Blog

Over the course of many years of working with clients in a variety of settings, I have gained a number of insights, and it’s my pleasure to share some of these insights and observations here. Please take what you find helpful, and leave the rest. — Douglas

Our species didn’t evolve for Happiness

Why do so many people experience unhappiness? There are lots of differing ways to look at it. The personal-responsibility view says people are unhappy because they make poor choices, which bring negative consequences and lead to unhappiness. Another view is that our culture's focus on material success leaves many of us empty inside, and confused as to why the nice home, car or vacation doesn't completely satisfy us. The spiritually-oriented [...]

Ridiculous Shoes, yes

Make it a habit to notice how often you judge your feelings. I regularly hear people say their feelings are silly, stupid, or ridiculous. There are ridiculous shoes and TV shows, but not ridiculous feelings. They just are what they are. A judgmental reaction to emotions sets you up to be hating and struggling with what you feel. It seems that what people actually mean if they say their feelings [...]

Addiction 2.0

We are living in interesting and paradoxical times. The internet and smartphones, hailed as inventions that would save us tons of time and free us to do the things we most want to do, have in many cases done the opposite. So many of us are wasting time checking things we don't really need to check, reading things that don't have relevance in our lives, and viewing things that in [...]

Are We There Yet?

  It might seem like stating the obvious to observe that most of the moments in our days are spent getting from A to B. Getting to work, and home again. Getting to a movie, or dinner. Life follows the same pattern- we're trying to get somewhere: To a better job or relationship, to grad school, or to our next vacation. How many of us spend the winter waiting and [...]

The Power of Retreating

A funny thing happens when we step off the merry-go-round. Things stop spinning. The dust settles,and we can see more clearly. We have time to reflect on how we are living, what's working and what isn't, and prepare for moving in new directions. A personal retreat is one way to step off and onto more solid ground. There's an old saying about the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing [...]

Mindfulness and the Addictive Mind

Mindfulness is getting a lot of attention these days, and rightly so. As a way to cultivate balance, sanity and contentment, it's been well-tested since its development 2600 years ago. Consider its longevity, in comparison to the relatively infantile field of psychotherapy, which it's generally agreed developed in the late 1800s in Vienna with Freud, Jung and their cohort. Mindfulness originates in the teachings of the Buddha, who taught that [...]